For most guys, the bedroom is probably the one place you don’t want to finish first. Sex experts agree that nothing makes a guy feel more insecure than coming up short when it matters most. Researchers have pointed out that the average guy lasts only 5 to 10 minutes during sex, and 71 percent of men want better sexual endurance. It is no fun for her and embarrassing for you (man) when it all ends too early.
“I dated a guy whom my friends and I called five-second, because every time he and I had sex, it was over in about five seconds. It got to the point where he only felt comfortable having sex after drinking, which then, of course, led to him taking so long to cum. This I do not find funny” Miss Oluchi, an undergraduate said.
Another respondent, who does not want her name in print, said women like it when their men last longer in bed “My uncle’s wife complained to me that he does not last long in bed, and this worries her. The truth is that women want to be satisfied,” she said.
You hear all the stories about the time it was over in under a minute, and then there is the type where it is an hour-long session and you wonder. These experiences are more or less like different tales for different folks. The question then is: how long is sex supposed to last?
The duration of sex has been studied a lot. According to Dr. Brendan Zietsch, a psychologist from the University of Queensland has sought to answer this pressing question. In an article for The Conversation, he examined all the latest research and found penetration can last from 33 seconds to 44 minutes when an average is taken of all the times each couple has sex. The average time across different couples was 5.4 minutes.
In a study by two scientists, Eric Corty and Jenay Guardiani, from the Pennsylvania State University in the United States, good sex does not necessarily have to last for hours. In fact, they said it could last for minutes. They noted that satisfactory sexual intercourse should actually be between three and 13 minutes.
Some sex experts are of the view that when sex lasts anything longer than ten minutes, it is a statistical anomaly! Some of the confusion about how long sex should last derives from the way we conceive the act.
Other sex experts reveal that durability during sex depends on the mood. They cite instances when you have had a bad day at the office and you get home late and tired. When you try to have sex your mind is just not there and you cannot get an erection. Your partner asks if there is something wrong and without realising that the problem is nothing more than stress, you try to do the impossible and force yourself into performing. It doesn’t work. The next time you try and have sex, you are reminded of what happened last week, which only makes you fail again.
Importantly, sex experts advise that in order to have a good sex life, you can talk honestly to your partner from time to time about sex and any issues that arise. This especially softens the pressure and mood. Also, there are those who do not understand the preoccupation some have with ‘how long’. Some sex experts say it has never been about quantity, but all about quality. So, how long sex really lasts clearly does not matter. They explain that when it comes to the heat of the moment, pleasure has no number.